Honoring the Ancestors through Song.
The term “ancestors” can be interpreted broadly. It may refer to family members who have passed away, such as grandparents, parents, aunts, and uncles. It can also include siblings, friends, and even companion animals. Additionally, “ancestors” may encompass influential individuals who have shaped your life, regardless of blood relation—such as public figures, mentors, or friends’ loved ones. The intention is to honor those who have contributed meaningfully to your journey.
Singing for the ancestors is a practice open to everyone. There is no requirement for musical skill, and no one needs to feel excluded. All that is needed is your voice, a memory of someone you wish to honor, and perhaps some water, cider, or tea, along with snacks for after the ritual. Singing can be both energizing and tiring, so sharing a small meal afterward can help you feel grounded. If you are with others, a potluck—especially with dishes from family recipes—can add meaning to the experience.
This ritual does not require a formally cast Circle, though it can be included if desired. The process is similar to atonal chanting, but with an effort to keep the harmonies pleasant. Participants may sit or stand in a loose circle. One person begins by saying, “I sing in honor of [name],” and then sings a few simple, tuneless notes. Another person follows, naming their ancestor and joining in with similar notes or harmonies. Each person takes a turn, naming who they are honoring and adding their voice. If a melody develops, it is welcome, but it is not necessary. Harmonies may vary, and some may choose to add rhythmic elements by clapping, drumming, or tapping. Movement, such as dancing, may also arise naturally.
The ritual continues until the group feels complete. If the energy feels intense or participants feel lightheaded, sitting on the floor with palms on the ground can help release excess energy into the earth, which is considered part of the offering. When everyone feels settled, food and drink are shared, and a portion can be set aside for the ancestors.
For those practicing alone, it is possible to record your singing and harmonize with yourself during playback. You may also speak the names of those you are honoring during pauses, or add instruments if you wish. However, a solo voice is just as meaningful as a group. Even pets joining in are welcome.
This practice offers a gentle, inclusive way to remember and honor those who have shaped your life, fostering connection and gratitude through music and shared ritual.
